ost of the time, writers include only two genders in their stories, because that’s what our society tells us is valid. There are men and there are women. End of conversation. But in reality, gender is a social construct with real-world implications. In other words, despite the fact that the gender binary is essentially made up — despite the fact that gender, period, is is essentially made up — our lives are shaped by our perceived and assigned gender.
We organize our lives around the binary. Clothes, bathrooms, toys — even Doritos — are gendered. It can be difficult to trouble the notion of gender because it has such a long-reaching impact on our lives, but, to borrow from an old chant: we’re here, we’re genderfluid and nonbinary. Get used to it. And, perhaps more importantly, recognize and create more space for us.